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Attachment & Relational Wounds

Developmental Psychotherapy

Attachment & Relational Wounds
Re-Programming Developmental Relational Patterns

Relational psychotherapy focused on restructuring developmental attachment patterns that shape intimacy, emotional safety and connection. Integrates attachment theory and trauma-informed approaches to support secure functioning in adult relationships.

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Format & Structure

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Session Duration
60-90 minutes

 

Session Fee
SGD 150 per session

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This is a psychotherapeutic 8-session programme.

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What this is

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Attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby and empirically studied by Mary Ainsworth, proposes that human beings are biologically wired to seek proximity, safety and co-regulation in early relationships.

 

Children develop patterned responses to caregiver availability:

  • Secure

  • Anxious (ambivalent)

  • Avoidant

  • Disorganised

 

These are not personality traits.
 

They are adaptive strategies formed in response to relational environments.

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Over time, these early attachment strategies become internal working models shaping how we interpret closeness, conflict, reassurance and rejection in adulthood.

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In adult relationships, this may present as:

  • Intense attachment that forms rapidly

  • Heightened fear of abandonment

  • Emotional withdrawal when intimacy deepens

  • Attraction to inconsistent or emotionally unavailable partners

  • Over-functioning, rescuing, or hyper-independence

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These responses once served a protective function.
However, they may no longer serve your present relationships.

In this themed psychotherapy programme, the work we do will integrate:​

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Attachment theory and adult attachment frameworks

  • Trauma-informed psychotherapy

  • Somatic awareness and nervous system regulation

  • Parts-based exploration of protective strategies

  • Relational processing within the therapeutic relationship
     

The aim is not to pathologise your attachment style.
It is to increase coherence and flexibility within your relational system

Facilitated by Lou 
Trauma-informed Psychotherapist & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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Lou is a trauma-informed psychotherapist who believes that real healing happens when insight is embodied, not just understood. Her approach goes beyond talk therapy, integrating neuroscience, evidence-based modalities, and experiential work that engages both the mind and body.

Core areas explored

  • Your relational history and formative attachment experiences

  • Internal working models of self-worth and expectations of others

  • Relational triggers and emotional activation patterns

  • Anxiety in closeness and fear of rejection

  • Withdrawal, hyper-independence or over-functioning in relationships

  • Shame and rejection sensitivity within relationships

  • Emotional co-regulation and differentiation

  • Boundary formation without loss of connection

  • The link between attachment insecurity and self-esteem
     

We examine how your nervous system and identity structure respond to intimacy, distance, conflict and reassurance — and how these patterns shape your sense of worth.

Outcome

Research across developmental and attachment studies consistently shows that relational patterns and self-perceptions are not fixed.

Through corrective relational experiences and reflective integration, individuals can move toward secure functioning and stable internal worth.

This work supports:

  • Greater relational stability

  • Reduced anxiety in closeness

  • Increased emotional tolerance in intimacy

  • More flexible responses rather than automatic reactions

  • Healthier boundaries without withdrawal or over-functioning

  • The capacity to choose relationships consciously rather than repeat familiar patterns


This is structural relational and identity work grounded in developmental science, not surface-level communication coaching.

Lou has a very easy going warm demeanour that quickly put me at ease yet she was very insightful and was able to give her professional input and advice in a way I was able to receive without resistance. She is wise beyond her age. Her heart and passion to help people heal is amazing. As a client, I appreciate the homework I was given so that I could be accountable and responsible for my own healing journey. I was impressed that Lou worked doubly hard with the homework I handed in. What ever you are willing to give and commit to this healing journey with Lou, She will match you with her 200% the same energy, enthusiasm and commitment. 

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The only ‘negative’ comment I have is that I feel Lou sometimes give too much! When is always there in my time if need; not only at our arranged appointments. All the times in between appointments she is there to remind me, to boost me, to encourage me whenever I need or am in danger of back sliding or regressing. Honestly this ‘negative’ point is probably what makes Lou stand out in the sea of therapists. 

 

I am so thankful I find Lou to help and support me through my self healing and self discovery journey. From the bottom of my heart, thank you Lou.

Lou's client, undisclosed identity

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