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Attachment & Relational Wounds

 

Developmental Psychotherapy

Attachment & Relational Wounds
Re-Programming Developmental Relational Patterns

Relational psychotherapy focused on restructuring developmental attachment patterns that shape intimacy, emotional safety and connection. Integrates attachment theory and trauma-informed approaches to support secure functioning in adult relationships.

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Format & Structure

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Session Duration
60-90 minutes

 

Session Fee
SGD 150 per session

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This is a psychotherapeutic 8-session programme.

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What this is

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Attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby and empirically studied by Mary Ainsworth, proposes that human beings are biologically wired to seek proximity, safety and co-regulation in early relationships.

 

Children develop patterned responses to caregiver availability:

  • Secure

  • Anxious (ambivalent)

  • Avoidant

  • Disorganised

 

These often get misunderstood as personality traits but are actually adaptive strategies formed in response to relational environments.

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Over time, these early attachment strategies become internal working models shaping how we interpret closeness, conflict, reassurance and rejection in adulthood.

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In adult relationships, this may present as:

  • Intense attachment that forms rapidly

  • Heightened fear of abandonment

  • Emotional withdrawal when intimacy deepens

  • Attraction to inconsistent or emotionally unavailable partners

  • Over-functioning, rescuing, or hyper-independence

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These responses once served a protective function but are no longer relevant in serving relationships as an adult.

In this themed psychotherapy programme, the work we do will integrate:​

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Attachment theory and adult attachment frameworks

  • Trauma-informed psychotherapy

  • Somatic awareness and nervous system regulation

  • Parts-based exploration of protective strategies

  • Relational processing within the therapeutic relationship
     

The aim is not to pathologise your attachment style.
It is to increase coherence and flexibility within your relational system

Facilitated by Lou 
Trauma-informed Psychotherapist & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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Lou believes that real healing happens when insight is embodied, not just understood. Her approach goes beyond talk therapy, integrating neuroscience, evidence-based modalities, and experiential work that engages both the mind and body.

Core areas explored

  • Your relational history and formative attachment experiences

  • Internal working models of self-worth and expectations of others

  • Relational triggers and emotional activation patterns

  • Anxiety in closeness and fear of rejection

  • Withdrawal, hyper-independence or over-functioning in relationships

  • Shame and rejection sensitivity within relationships

  • Emotional co-regulation and differentiation

  • Boundary formation without loss of connection

  • The link between attachment insecurity and self-esteem
     

We examine how your nervous system and identity structure respond to intimacy, distance, conflict and reassurance and how these patterns shape your sense of worth.

Outcome

Research across developmental and attachment studies consistently shows that relational patterns and self-perceptions are not fixed.

Through corrective relational experiences and reflective integration, individuals can move toward secure functioning and stable internal worth.

This work supports:

  • Greater relational stability

  • Reduced anxiety in closeness

  • Increased emotional tolerance in intimacy

  • More flexible responses rather than automatic reactions

  • Healthier boundaries without withdrawal or over-functioning

  • The capacity to choose relationships consciously rather than repeat familiar patterns


This is structural relational and identity work grounded in developmental science, not surface-level communication coaching.

Relational psychotherapy focused on restructuring developmental attachment patterns that shape intimacy, emotional safety and connection. Integrates attachment theory and trauma-informed approaches to support secure functioning in adult relationships.

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Format & Structure

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Session Duration
60-90 minutes

 

Session Fee
SGD 150 per session

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This is a psychotherapeutic 8-session programme.

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I’ve had a few sessions with Lou and it has been a safe space for me to discuss my thoughts and share about my life. It gives me time to gain insights to my life and see a different perspective to it. Each time, I learn something new that I can take away so that I can manage situations in my life better. It’s a work in progress and Lou takes time to understand then checks in on me. She is dedicated in supporting me through my journey to understand the person I am, why I am the way I am and help myself grow towards becoming the person I want to be.

Farhana, 36

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